Blast from the past dated April 25, 2006

I've been thinking... Though everybody constantly tell me not to go overboard, the summer heat, my inability to express my thoughts verbally, and the "loneliness" made it so irresistable. So let's see how far I've gone...

I've received an SMS from a friend and she confided how she felt awful yesterday. She narrated how she misses her ex-boyfriend. A few hours before the incident, she was telling me how they broke up-- apparently the guy cheated on her. I'd say... women. *clicks his tongue*

Truth be told, she's not the only one who poured her heart to me. I've seen and heard this so many times and in different languages...I can sniff it out from anyone. The regrets they had for making their significant others' as the center of their universe and the whole nine yards. Honestly? I've probably crashed and burned in a similar fashion, just minus the boo-hoo moments.

Ever since I've learned to put myself in someone else's situation, I've been listening to these sob stories for as long as I can remember. And everytime, I give them my versions of unsolicited advices and "feel-good" words and phrases that it wasn't their fault that made their significant others do it (blah-blah-blah...yadda-yadda-yadda). I feel it's unfair to say that no matter how hard I listen to their problems, nobody would have the heart to listen to me. But then, that's just me and that's another story to tell.

So here's my question... Do we guys always have to take the blame whenever a crippling situation brews up? Obviously, I've heard countless of these ladies' "ideal men" confessions, and I guess clearing this one up will put my mind at ease.

Men, in majority has always been regarded as the Alphas of society and history has dictated these several times (I need not explain this). An impressive set of physical attributes, a considerably-tolerable IQ level, a somewhat live-able life philosophy, not to mention a pretty face, a ridiculously-affluent bank account and a heart to fill for a woman. These are some of the few requirements. Anybody having any of these would definitely drop someones undergarments off and snag a chic at any given day. Yes, even if they are blind-folded, hand-cuffed and chained.

Man's social responsibility is to support the life of the family he establishes. Though time witnessed its change of course with the women joining the workforce, the pressure for the men to uphold discipline to their childer, protect his pack, and maintain their stature together with all the rest still remains. Though women deserve the right to be respected as well as honored and loved because of their sensitivity and being emotionally-volatile, I believe that men should deserve that kind of treatment as well.

I'm not being unfair with the female department, because I've heard and seen their tears. I've listened through their complaints and I say it is just. But as the saying goes "it takes two to tango". It means two dancers should play their roles equally to exercise their performance as it should be.

Case en pointe: Guys do the most immature and the darnest inconsiderate things and cheat because there are things that their partners aren't really satisfied with.

I'm not saying that it's an excuse to cheat because your S.O. because can not fill in with the qualities the "other" has. I'm just saying that these are occurences that should be observed closely. As to how to fill it in, is no longer my responsibility to tell you.

Because there are reasons that we consider greatly in ourselves and to our partners whenever we engage in a relationship.

Because the responsibility that we fill to love and keep you, as well as on the world we're living in is great, that we also deserve to be catered, and loved, and respected. That also includes how our minds work and how we handle pressure. And when I say responsibility, I do not mean it as a chore or a task. We are capable of loving people even if the "why" question cannot be answered directly. I say this as a responsibility because, after all, it's the boyfriends who comes in first to love their partners right?

And to demand things far more than what we can currently offer is unreasonable to the things we've sacrificed to just be with you... This'll make us question our worth, that may result to us finding someone who may find us valuable with just being ourselves.

And ladies...knowing that we're trying our best to be your personalized "Superman", please keep in mind that the things that we have laid upon our backs are and will always be life-changing, that we are willing to carry your burdens and solve them "together". I know you do love and care for us, and we're not expecting you to give your all and support us (at least not until the vows has been said). What we need is someone who could understand the things that we are concerned about-- the elements that makes us into who we are, including you and the things you believe in.

Please comment if you will. A witchhunt might be sought after me for this ^_^'